Welcome
Find your way back to you
Therapeutic Coaching for difficult relationships, painful breakups and emotional recovery
About To the Light Counselling
From the darkness, back to yourself
Hello, I'm El.
My journey into this work began over 20 years ago, when I first started studying psychology and what helps us heal.
I know that recovery from narcissistic abuse, a painful breakup or a difficult relationship can feel like the world has ended. You can feel completely lost. Your blood runs cold. You may wonder how you are ever going to feel like yourself again. And sometimes the hardest part is feeling as though nobody really understands what you have been through.
You may have hidden things from family and friends, protected the person you were with, or simply found it too difficult or shameful to explain what was really happening behind closed doors.
What can be left behind is a painful mixture of shame, confusion, fear, helplessness and exhaustion. You may question yourself, your decisions and even your own perception of what happened.
And in the middle of all that darkness, it can be difficult to imagine that things will ever feel different.
But recovery is possible.
I created To the Light Counselling Coaching because I believe that finding your way out of that darkness doesn’t mean forgetting what happened. It means understanding it, making sense of your experience, rebuilding your confidence and, gradually, finding your way back to yourself.
My approach is warm, compassionate and completely non-judgemental. You don’t have to have everything figured out before you come to me. You can simply start where you are.
Sometimes, you just need someone who understands.
And sometimes, finding your way back to the light starts with having somewhere safe to tell your story.
You are in good hands
Nobody wants to sit and read a long list of qualifications. And honestly, I don’t blame you.
But education has always been important to me. I’m sure there are many wonderful people out there who help others heal without university degrees or a long list of certificates. I have enormous respect for that.
For me, though, I wanted to learn.
I wanted to understand people. I wanted to understand why we hurt, why we sometimes stay in situations that hurt us, and what can help us find our way back when life has knocked us off course.
I deeply care about the people I work with, my aim is to keep learning — to build my knowledge and gather as many useful techniques, approaches and tools as I can, so that I can meet you where you are and support you in the way that feels right for you.
You don’t need to know exactly what you need when you come to me.
You just need to know that you want things to feel different.
My hope is to help you heal, rebuild your confidence, understand yourself a little more deeply and, eventually, become the person you were always meant to be.
To find your way out of the darkness.
To bring back your light.
